Updated: Jul 2
In our path to success, one significant but often overlooked element is the fact that we can be the very weapon form against ourselves. I know, I know!!! Nobody wants to hear that they could be their own enemy, but more time than we care to admit, we are.
Today, I want to show you how TO IDENTIFY IF YOU ARE HINDERING YOUR GROWTH and the STEPS you can take to align your mindset with your goals.
Have you ever heard of the term: INTROSPECTION?
Introspection, (from Latin introspicere, “to look within”), the process of observing the operations of one’s own mind with a view to discovering the laws that govern the mind.
Introspection is a powerful practice. It allows us to better understand ourselves by analyzing our thoughts, emotions, and triggers, which can help us understand the reasons for our self-doubt and limited beliefs. This week, I encourage you to spend time doing some introspection to discover the areas of your life where you have been your own enemy.
Just because you believe it doesn't make it true!!!
One of the ways we hinder our growth is by never questioning our beliefs about ourselves and life, our family's beliefs, society's beliefs, or even our ethnicity's beliefs. This week, I posted a video on Instagram where I shared that for the longest time, I thought that my Caribbean accent, the fact that I am an immigrant, a black woman would hinder my success. Who told me that? NOBODY but ME!!! And for at least 10 years, I was stuck by my mindset, afraid to make certain moves and talk to people who could have helped catapult my success.
To overcome this, I had to replace those false narratives by repeating this type of affirmation every time I would feel triggered or self-doubt creeping in: "I am the head and not the tail, above and not beneath!!!", "I deserve a seat at the table!!!", "Success is my birthright!!!"
Today, it will be hard for someone to convince me I am not FLY!!! I know I am!!! God says I am!!! And guess what? So are you once you accept it as your truth!!! This week, I encourage you to take some time to identify the false narratives that are keeping you bound: (I don't have a degree or the right degree... I don't have the right connections... There's no one to help me... I am too old or too young... I don't know how to network or promote myself on social media or in person... etc.) Whatever yours is, know it's a lie. The only limitation you have is the one you've accepted, and NO, I didn't say you could fly like a bird :-)
Giraffes don't hang out with turtles!!!
I've read that a giraffe has a 25lbs heart that pumps blood to its 9-foot neck so its head can stay high, and should it decide to lower its head, it will lose consciousness. Could your malaise be due to the people you hang around that entertain your false narratives about yourself and the ways of the world?
If there is one thing I don't play with nowadays, it's my environment. If you're a constant complainer- You gotta go!!! Not because life is perfect. We all know it's not!!! But words have power, and I refuse to build the wrong environment with my words or allow someone to affect mine with theirs. Plus, as I stated a couple of weeks ago, complaining every day is praying to the devil.
This week, look at your closest relations to see who really pushes you out of your comfort zone and who, while they want you to grow, don't want you to grow too far.
You can't erase limited beliefs that have sat on your mind for years in one day, week, or month. However, if you identify them and start taking the necessary steps to dismantle them, I assure you the rest of the road will be lighter because you would have discovered your true nature.